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Meet Adina Glickman! CollegiateParent's newest columnist has practical and compassionate advice on all matters related to supporting your young adult.
January 27, 2021

Uneasy About the Long Drive to College

Dear Adina, My 2021 high school senior will be attending college three states and eight hours away from home starting next fall. As an out-of-state student, she is allowed to have a car on campus, and she will. She is a safe, responsible, careful driver, but I'm uneasy about her […] Read More
January 12, 2021

Do I Have to Treat My Two Children the Same?

Dear Adina, My youngest daughter is a freshman engineering major at a small private university. She wants to work spring semester to earn money to cover her (expensive!) sorority dues and has her eye on a job at the campus COVID-19 testing center. I'm worried about two things: her health […] Read More
January 5, 2021

Wondering About My Student's Sexual Identity

Dear Adina, On a phone call this fall my son really surprised me by confiding that he's bisexual. I was pretty floored because he's had relationships with girls and only recently was very sad about it not working out with a girl he'd liked for a long time. He hasn't […] Read More
December 28, 2020

What Should I Do About My Smelly Son?

Dear Adina, We have a 20 and a 22 year old. This season has been so much more challenging than I ever knew to prepare myself for. A friend recently shared your resources with me and they have been incredibly helpful! So first of all, thank you! Secondly, I would love any advice […] Read More
December 22, 2020

Mad About an "F"

Dear Adina, My sophomore just announced that she failed a class this semester! We had no idea this was coming. I know it was a tough fall and it's hard to stay excited about online classes (she had no in-person classes), but I'm frustrated (okay, I’ll say it — mad!) […] Read More
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  • 21 hours ago

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    “Mom, it means they are non-binary”. I heard the words unmistakably tumble out of my middle son’s mouth. His voice was steady. He seemed to know what he was saying. He seemed to understand it and have no issues with it. And more importantly, his elder sibling didn’t say anything to disagree with him. In fact, they didn’t say anything at all. And so began my quest for knowledge. My eldest offspring identifies as non-binary. I like to describe them as “a non-binary young adult human”. The first time we met, I fell truly, madly, deeply in love. It was instant! A love as intense as any other, it was mutual. They loved me as much as I loved them. And I have never looked back. I have always known they are in the LGBTQ+ community. I just knew, don’t ask me how. My usual response to the quizzical stares I often receive whenever I give that response is:A mother always knows. I knew and I accepted them right away! Some of my family members had to warm up to the idea, some others have no intention to, and quite frankly, I could care less.Here’s what I care about: the fact that I, a bisexual pediatrician with nearly 30 years’ experience, a self-proclaimed youth suicide prevention activist, knowing what I know about the effect of parental acceptance on LGBTQ+ youth (particularly transgender and nonbinary youth), I still pushed back when I made the discovery about their gender! I pushed back with all my might. I resisted their “non-binaryness”. I wanted to understand what it was and what it meant before supporting them. I wanted time to mourn the loss of their “gayness…” I wanted to hold on to my own ideals, and to the dreams I have for my child. But in so doing, I forgot about said child, and hijacked the agenda!It took a showdown and the following words tumbling out of their mouth for me to stop, listen, redress and get with it. “Mom, it’s not about you!” Hmmm. How many of us think it is about us? How many of us literally forget and make it about us? How many inadvertently make it about us, our friends, our family, our colleagues at work, the neighbors, and everyone in between? Everyone except our child.How many of us pause to think and remember what we all wanted from our parents as teens? Visibility and Validation. We all wanted to be seen and heard, believed, respected, and even left alone. How and why then do we forget those basic concepts when our kids come out of the closet? Needless to say; for some of our kids, it is a matter of life and death as bullying, homelessness and suicide are more common in this community. When it comes to acceptance, it should always begin at home. The life of yours and my LGBTQ+ child can literally hang on the balance. It is hard enough being them. Let’s not add our own flavors to theirs. - by Dr. Lulu, DrUchenna Lizmay Umeh, host of The Pride Corner and Positively Parenting Your LGBTQ* 🏳️‍🌈 Child(ren) ... See MoreSee Less
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    22 hours ago

    CollegiateParent
    “Amazing interview skills” - S.G, viewer“Great guest” - E.H, viewer“Learned a Lot” - N.L, viewer Pride is more than just waving a rainbow flag. 🏳️‍🌈 It’s about Love, Acceptance & Learning. Watch/Listen to this (less than) 30 min about gender vs sexuality from non-binary trans college student Jules Weed. 🏳️‍⚧️ Fast forward to 4 min mark for Jules. ... See MoreSee Less
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