October 22, 2021
Should I Help My Injured Student-Athlete Talk to Her Coach?
Dear Adina, My college athlete is injured and her coach does not understand the seriousness of the injury and is angry at her and basically calling her a wimp. She (the coach) won’t look at her or talk to her. I want to clarify the extent of injury to the […] Read More
September 15, 2021
What Do I Do With My Worry?
Dear Adina, My daughter struggled with an eating disorder during Covid and has now gone very far away to university where she knew only a few people. I know that she is asking advice from my ex-husband’s girlfriend as she sees her as a friend. I am very hurt that […] Read More
June 24, 2021
It's Hard Not to Over-Focus on My Youngest
Dear Adina, My youngest son is the only one left living at home and it's hard not to over-focus on him. Any tips on how not to do this? Dear Parent, Well, he’s not the ONLY one left living at home, but he is the only youngster and you are […] Read More
June 11, 2021
Why Has My Daughter Lost All Her Friends?
Hi Adina! My daughter started freshman year with quite a few friends. She is starting her junior year and has literally outgrown all of her friends. This so-called friends group started with a mixed group of friends and due to no fault of my daughter’s, she has lost them all. […] Read More
May 27, 2021
Can My Student Pursue Their Passion and Still Pay the Bills?
Dear Adina, How do you guide your young adult to balance their intellectual passion and the desire that they shouldn’t struggle to be able to pay the bills? Dear Parent, I have been writing and rewriting an answer to your question for weeks. Why am I stumbling? Simple as your […] Read More
May 12, 2021
My Student's Friends Have More Cash
Dear Adina, My youngest has made many amazing friends at his college, and an issue is that many of these kids have a lot more disposable money than my son. My son DoorDashes to earn extra money, but he sometimes has a hard time keeping up (financially) with the group […] Read More
May 6, 2021
Should I Offer Relationship Advice?
Dear Adina, I have a question about how (and whether) we can advise our kids on the subject of choosing a life partner. Say my child has been dating someone who doesn’t treat them with respect. How do I handle that, knowing my child might hold anything I say about […] Read More
April 28, 2021
How Do I Avoid Comparing Sibling Paths to College?
Dear Adina, I have a high school sophomore who has two older siblings in college. How do I avoid comparing their paths to college? Unfortunately for my third child, his high school career has been upended by the pandemic. Dear Parent, You don’t avoid comparing their paths to college. This […] Read More
April 20, 2021
My Student Is Struggling — When Do I Jump In to Help?
Dear Adina, My student (they/them pronouns) is a junior who decided partway into the semester to take a leave of absence from school for mental health reasons. The school is 1,000 miles away and I flew out for a week to help get the MLOA process started. We had some […] Read More
April 13, 2021
How Do I Talk to My Child About Their Health Choices?
Dear Adina, How do you talk to your child about choices they are making that might affect their long-term health — smoking, overeating, etc.? Do you just trust that they will figure it out? Dear Parent, How many life coaches does it take to change a light bulb? One, but […] Read More