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Is My H.S. Senior Ready to Apply ED?

Dear Adina, How do I know if my child is ready to apply to college ED (Early Decision)? Dear Parent, The decision to apply to a college using the Early Decision process is usually born of two mindsets. The first is one of clarity. The student absolutely without a doubt […] Read More

How Do I Help My Student-Athlete Balance School and Sports?

Dear Adina, My daughter is a student-athlete at the moment. She even enrolled in a recruitment platform and seems to be motivated to pursue to play soccer in college. She complains that training is a lot of work and academics also involve a lot of time. She struggles with her […] Read More

Should I Say Something About My Kid's Racy TikToks?

Dear Adina, Today I saw a couple of TikToks on my 21-year-old’s account that I would call “questionable.” They were sexually suggestive but seemingly in good fun. My main concern is that as a rising senior this could negatively impact his job search if a potential employer were to find […] Read More

Will Encouraging "Safety Schools" Demoralize My Child?

Dear Adina, With application numbers off the charts and no competitive school being a true "safety school," how do you advise your child who works really hard, gets good grades (A-/B+) but is less developed on the extracurricular front to further explore less competitive, less known or established programs? And […] Read More

Do I Have to Support Their Preference for Online Classes?

Dear Adina, What if your student wants to take web-based classes when in-person classes with a live professor are available and the parent would rather that they attend live, in-person classes? Dear Parent, This topic is deep and complicated, and warrants a conversation with your student that begins with your […] Read More

How Do I Get My Kids to Finish College?

Dear Adina, We need professional advice on how to get our sons back to college. They started, and then 2020 happened, and gap semesters and mental health, and now? We cannot get them focused on going back to finish the degrees (one is two-thirds through and the other less than […] Read More

My Graduate Is a Bit Lost...How Do I Help?

Hi, Adina! My daughter graduated in December 2021. She’s not sure what to do for a job, and she might go back to get her master's. Do you have any advice that I could give her to help her make any decisions? Thank you! Dear Parent, My mom tells me […] Read More

Is My Child Too Young for College?

Dear Adina, My daughter is 16 and went from a normal high school situation with many friends to a collegiate high school where friends became null and void (mostly because the kids are so focused on the books and not the type to go to the mall on weekends). While […] Read More

How Do I Find My Empty Nest Groove?

Dear Adina, Now that the kids have left the nest, I’m struggling to find a groove of couplehood after spending 25 years in the parent-first role. Any advice on how to rediscover Me as an individual and also Us as a couple? Dear Empty Nester, You are asking the absolute […] Read More

Should I Help My Injured Student-Athlete Talk to Her Coach?

Dear Adina, My college athlete is injured and her coach does not understand the seriousness of the injury and is angry at her and basically calling her a wimp. She (the coach) won’t look at her or talk to her. I want to clarify the extent of injury to the […] Read More
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    Dorm decorating has become an industry.

    There are professional dorm decorators, décor kits, Pinterest boards, etc. There are even colleges and universities with reputations for high level décor by their students.

    I’d like to share some thoughts about décor for parents and students to consider.

    Room Furnishings Policy

    Every Residence Life Department has a dorm decorating policy in place. It is so important to follow the rules to avoid fines for damages, missing items, etc. Many residence halls restrict the use of tape and adhesive products because they aren’t always removed properly and despite the “no damage” promise can damage walls and doors. Decorating policies can vary widely because they’re based on the particular building and its paint, furniture, etc.

    Furniture

    Room furniture provided by the college and university is required to remain in the room unless other arrangements have been made (for example, because of a medical accommodation). This means any furniture removed (without the school’s approval) is the responsibility of the student(s) assigned to the room. Work with the furniture in your space.

    Also, be mindful when adjusting beds because if the bed is damaged, you are responsible for the cost. Always contact staff to receive assistance. Some colleges have loft kits available to rent to raise your bed. Check your housing website or handbook for details.

    Roommates’ Décor

    Students (and their families) often get excited about decorating and want to include the roommate on the venture. While this is a friendly gesture, be mindful there may be limitations for the roommate. I recently saw a TikTok video where a parent asks their student’s roommate to purchase a certain set of bedding from Amazon. The student couldn’t afford it and the parent was upset and requested a roommate change for their student.

    While this seems extreme it’s not uncommon. Here are a few things to consider when it comes to coordinating with roommates:

    The roommate has their own style.

    Everyone doesn’t want to match their roommate’s décor.

    Everyone can’t afford the same things.

    A student can ask their roommate but there is no obligation to say yes.

    Also, a parent should never reach out to a student’s roommate without permission. If the families don’t know each other, it can cause anxiety for both students. Roommates should communicate with one another directly.

    Decorating a dorm room can be a fun, exciting experience. Of course you want to help make that space as comfortable as possible for your student! Just remember to consider the policies, be respectful of the other roommate(s), and don’t overdo the décor because sometimes space is limited. It’s best to start with a small number of items and then add if needed.

    Happy Decorating!

    - from LaTrina Rogers, The Dorm Mom
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    Dorm decorating has become an industry.  There are professional dorm decorators, décor kits, Pinterest boards, etc. There are even colleges and universities with reputations for high level décor by their students.  I’d like to share some thoughts about décor for parents and students to consider.  Room Furnishings Policy  Every Residence Life Department has a dorm decorating policy in place. It is so important to follow the rules to avoid fines for damages, missing items, etc. Many residence halls restrict the use of tape and adhesive products because they aren’t always removed properly and despite the “no damage” promise can damage walls and doors. Decorating policies can vary widely because they’re based on the particular building and its paint, furniture, etc.  Furniture  Room furniture provided by the college and university is required to remain in the room unless other arrangements have been made (for example, because of a medical accommodation). This means any furniture removed (without the school’s approval) is the responsibility of the student(s) assigned to the room. Work with the furniture in your space.  Also, be mindful when adjusting beds because if the bed is damaged, you are responsible for the cost. Always contact staff to receive assistance. Some colleges have loft kits available to rent to raise your bed. Check your housing website or handbook for details.  Roommates’ Décor  Students (and their families) often get excited about decorating and want to include the roommate on the venture. While this is a friendly gesture, be mindful there may be limitations for the roommate. I recently saw a TikTok video where a parent asks their student’s roommate to purchase a certain set of bedding from Amazon. The student couldn’t afford it and the parent was upset and requested a roommate change for their student.  While this seems extreme it’s not uncommon. Here are a few things to consider when it comes to coordinating with roommates:  The roommate has their own style.  Everyone doesn’t want to match their roommate’s décor.  Everyone can’t afford the same things.  A student can ask their roommate but there is no obligation to say yes.  Also, a parent should never reach out to a student’s roommate without permission. If the families don’t know each other, it can cause anxiety for both students. Roommates should communicate with one another directly.  Decorating a dorm room can be a fun, exciting experience. Of course you want to help make that space as comfortable as possible for your student! Just remember to consider the policies, be respectful of the other roommate(s), and don’t overdo the décor because sometimes space is limited. It’s best to start with a small number of items and then add if needed.  Happy Decorating!  - from LaTrina Rogers, The Dorm Mom

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