May 6, 2021
Should I Offer Relationship Advice?
Dear Adina, I have a question about how (and whether) we can advise our kids on the subject of choosing a life partner. Say my child has been dating someone who doesn’t treat them with respect. How do I handle that, knowing my child might hold anything I say about […] Read More
April 28, 2021
How Do I Avoid Comparing Sibling Paths to College?
Dear Adina, I have a high school sophomore who has two older siblings in college. How do I avoid comparing their paths to college? Unfortunately for my third child, his high school career has been upended by the pandemic. Dear Parent, You don’t avoid comparing their paths to college. This […] Read More
April 20, 2021
My Student Is Struggling — When Do I Jump In to Help?
Dear Adina, My student (they/them pronouns) is a junior who decided partway into the semester to take a leave of absence from school for mental health reasons. The school is 1,000 miles away and I flew out for a week to help get the MLOA process started. We had some […] Read More
April 13, 2021
How Do I Talk to My Child About Their Health Choices?
Dear Adina, How do you talk to your child about choices they are making that might affect their long-term health — smoking, overeating, etc.? Do you just trust that they will figure it out? Dear Parent, How many life coaches does it take to change a light bulb? One, but […] Read More
April 9, 2021
How Should I Help My Daughter Navigate Female Friendships?
Hi, Adina, Do you have any advice for young women navigating female friendships? In the fall, my daughter (a freshman) got along so well with her roommate in her dorm but now is really struggling with this relationship. I have noticed a pattern of intense connections with her female friends, […] Read More
April 1, 2021
Time Off From College — How Long Is Too Long?
Hi Adina, I have a question (or maybe a few questions!) about my son who has taken time off from college to try to become a professional cyclist. He completed his first two years of college, but has been off for almost two years now. My question is whether, when […] Read More
March 25, 2021
Why Does My Smart Teen Lack Self-Confidence?
Dear Adina, My 17-year-old daughter (junior in high school) is very smart — all A's in AP and Honors classes, but lacks a degree of self-confidence. When I asked her about searching for a college she might like, she is basically less than interested (at least outwardly). Any suggestions for […] Read More
March 17, 2021
Do College Students Have to Get Internships?
Dear Adina, What kind of summer jobs/experiences are ideal or expected of college students? Is it necessary or advantageous to get a “career-related” internship or experience starting early in your college years? Dear Parent, Ideal? Expected? LOL. Such a 2019 notion. Right now it’s more about Coping, Adapting and Being […] Read More
March 12, 2021
Wishing I Heard More Often from My Student
Dear Adina, What is the appropriate frequency that you should check in with your college student if you are not hearing from them? ...and a related question... Dear Adina, How do you encourage a college-aged young man to be a better communicator with his parents and sibling? (My biggest current […] Read More
March 5, 2021
Worried Because My Senior Isn't Looking for a Job
Hi Adina! My son is about to graduate and has shown little interest in searching for his first job. He has been and is being treated for depression, anxiety and OCD and usually feels overwhelmed by school/life (even though he has only ever taken 15 credits a semester and not […] Read More