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Helping Students With Disabilities and Learning Differences Transition to CollegeSuzanne Shaffer
This has been another challenging year, as the pandemic continues to shape academic and social life on campus. But finals are finals. At the end of the semester, work piles up and pressure is high with final grades on the line. Students get tired and burned out.
In any year, parents want to help their students finish the spring term not only with academic success but more importantly with balanced and nurtured emotional, mental and physical health.
One of the most effective ways to help your college student minimize stress is, first, to communicate your interest in helping. “I am happy to listen. I know this seems unmanageable. You will get through this.”
Second, extend a lifeline of support and encouragement. “Even though things have sometimes been weird and uncertain because of the pandemic, you're right where you need to be at this stage in your college plan. You’re doing great and trying your hardest under challenging circumstances.”
Finally, check in, follow up and stay connected. Ask if they’re struggling, and find out what’s giving them trouble. Listen. Slip in reminders about the importance of keeping a healthy brain and body.
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It’s crucial to remember that how you deliver your reminders and support is more important than what you choose to say. The minute you say, “Maybe you should exercise more often,” you’ve lost their ears.
The Anxiety and Depression Association of America states that 30% of college students report stress negatively affecting their academic performance, and 85% report feeling overwhelmed by everything they have to do at some point within the past year.
These statistics alone indicate students could benefit from parental guidance as they navigate the demands, pressures and deadlines that contribute to college stress.
Here are 10 gentle reminders for your student so they can finish the semester with minimal stress:
Start preparing now for the semester end. Organize content. Schedule deadlines and project dates in a planner. Take advantage of virtual office hours with professors and TAs and attend online study sessions.
Organize your study space (see #3 below). Make a study outline. Review older content and online quizzes. Create an online study group. Try using the Eisenhower Matrix. Also known as the Urgent-Important Matrix, it's a highly effective, easy-to-use planning and decision-making tool for managing time and priorities.
An organized physical space creates an organized mind. Decide the best place(s) for you to study (i.e., somewhere comfortable and quiet). If you're studying in your bedroom, take extra trouble to keep the whole room as tidy as possible.
Be aware of the most energetic and alert times of the day and night — when you find you’re best able to focus and retain information. Avoid multitasking (ear buds) when studying.
Always keep water within arm’s reach for hydration.
Cramming results from irresponsible planning and causes undue stress on the brain. Waiting until the last minute to attempt to absorb and retain large amounts of content and then pulling all-nighters contributes to poor information storing and test error.
That’s why tip #1 is #1. Commit yourself to advance planning and prep. Allow the most study time for the most difficult and boring classes.
Please be careful about how you use stimulants to stay awake and help you concentrate, whether it's coffee, tea or energy drinks with tons of caffeine. Adderall is a prescription drug commonly misused and abused by college students; learn more.
The brain is designed to respond to change and variety. Reading the same subject matter for long periods of time causes the brain to slow retention, especially if it does not sense the information as relevant or worth remembering.
You'll learn better if you take study breaks. As Rick Nauert PhD observes in PsychCentral, “Brief diversions from a task can dramatically improve one’s ability to focus on that task for prolonged periods.”
Take 15-minute breaks every hour and a half — get out of doors if you’re able. Study for another class for a short amount of time before reactivating your focus on the original content. This will help with productivity, memory, attention and stress reduction.
Your student may not realize that a regular sleep routine supports proper management of mood, cravings, energy levels, memory retention, decision-making and overall wellness.
College students should get at least eight hours of uninterrupted sleep a night. A smart sleep environment is necessary. White noise, device elimination and comfort all help improve sleep. Power naps are effective in restoring and rejuvenating brain energy. Hitting the snooze button is not effective, nor is rushing.
What we eat and drink has a direct effect on brain as well as body function. Food is the brain’s fuel (think about what you put in the tank of your vehicle).
College students should eat for sustenance and long-lasting energy. Monitor refined sugar, food packaged in cellophane, and fast foods. Limit caffeine, alcohol and stimulants. Eliminate energy drinks! Choose “clean and green” foods. Incorporate Omega 3 fatty acids (from cold water fish), fiber and good sources of clean protein (hummus versus sour cream dips).
The best foods to help fight stress are those containing vitamin C, magnesium, selenium and vitamin B (e.g., nuts).
The benefits of exercise for stress management are well established. But for students, scheduling exercise can be difficult.
Still, it’s essential to fit in some type of vigorous activity each day. Don’t add stress by obsessing about the type of exercise or time spent. Choose something fun or new. Be intentional and consistent. A “walk before you run” mentality is the most effective for maintaining a routine.
Journal your activity choices and the feelings that result. You’ll notice improvement in sleep, mood, emotional regulation and overall wellness.
One of the hardest things to do in college is say “no” to fun invitations and distractions, whether it's parties or playing video games.
College is still your student's top priority. They need to protect their time, energy and health. Parents can support this goal. If your student works part-time, encourage them to limit hours at their job to 10–15/week max.
There’s little need to present statistics on young adults and their smartphones. Study after study has shown that usage in this age group is high, and distraction even higher.
A powerful and eye-opening exercise is to have your student record how much time they spend on their devices (not counting academics) in a 24-hour period. Simply being more conscious of this should help free up time to study, check in with friends and relax/exercise.
And as ever, be sure to shut off devices at least an hour before sleep.
Being mindful is a forgotten skill in our culture. We’re busy all the time and don’t think it’s okay to “do nothing” and “simply be.”
It’s healing to be aware of the sights, smells, sensations, tastes and sounds of the present moment. Now and then, choose a spot in the neighborhood (or one you can bike or drive to), take nothing (i.e., your phone) with you, and just “be.”
Notice your breathing, and watch thoughts pass through your mind without connecting or judging them. Walk with eyes and ears open. Magic.
Of course, many of these reminders are things we all need!
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