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“So, what are your plans after graduation?”
The winter season means joy and merriment for many of us, but the holidays and winter break can also be an stressful time — especially for college seniors, who often live in fear of being asked this exact question.
Sure, there’s a long vacation during which they can reconnect with friends, bond with family, and catch up on laundry (for free!) and sleep. However, the break also provides ample opportunity for relatives (and even sometimes random acquaintances) to initiate the important, yet dreaded, career conversation.
Broaching the subject of job hunting with your college senior doesn’t have to be a painful experience. A bit of preparation and a delicate hand make a world of difference when navigating what can be a stressful topic for both parent and young adult. If you’re hoping to kick off the career conversation with a college student in your life, simply keep three points in mind as a framework for your chat:
Using these to guide your discussion will help you steer clear of any perceived nagging and keep you safely within the “helpful, productive, and encouraging” zone.
Finding internships and jobs can be stressful for many young people and it's important for them to feel comfortable asking questions and having judgment-free conversations.
The topic is sure to be even more fraught this year during a pandemic which has hurt job prospects in many industries (although it's also opening up new opportunities).
A few things to discuss freely with your student to help them weigh the pros and cons of different options:
In order to foster the most productive conversation with your college student, consider exploring resources together. Sit down and peruse their university’s career services website — most colleges make it easy to access their professional development tools and tips.
You can also work together to sift through job opportunities on platforms like Handshake, a leading career community for college students and new grads in the U.S. The sheer volume of open roles out there can be a major source of job hunt anxiety, so narrowing the scope to only show listings specifically meant for college students and new grads can help alleviate stress when starting the search.
On Handshake, your student can indicate whether they’re a senior looking for a first full-time job or an underclassman seeking an internship or part-time work — filtering the job search makes the project feel much less daunting.
As your student navigates the intricacies of finding internships and jobs, act as a mentor, offer advice when it is requested, and point them in the direction of helpful resources and tools — but always let them lead the process and be in charge.
(And as much as your own job hunt stories might feel like a good resource, remember that the market has changed a lot — a "back in my day" anecdote might spark more frustration than inspiration!)
If your college student isn’t quite sure what possibilities are out there for their major, interests and experience level, try spinning your conversation into a fun exploratory activity. Read through descriptions of different job roles they might not have considered, or compare your respective results from a personality quiz (such as the Myers-Briggs test or enneagram type analysis) intended to guide their career thinking.
Young adults with little experience understandably believe the stakes are high when they make their first employment choices. Reassure them that choosing a job isn’t an irreversible decision. Help them understand that they will choose based on the best information at hand, but can always revisit and reevaluate their decisions in the future.
Also remind your student that many if not most people try a few different types of jobs early in their career to find what's the best fit, sometimes even within the same company. Everything is a learning experience and helps them refine what they want to do next.
Your attitude and approach to this conversation can have a big impact. At the end of the day, thinking about the world of possibilities beyond their college campus should be fun for your young adult! Remember to assert your pride, positivity and belief in their potential.
With you on their team and the right tools at their disposal, everything else will fall into place.
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