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Start a Real Conversation with Your College StudentMiami-Oxford
We know that the first few weeks after sending your student to college are often filled with excitement and anxiety — for you and your student! This time is also a very real reminder of the significant shift in your relationship with your emerging young adult. Remember, the values you’ve instilled over time form the core of the person they are becoming. College is a place where they will clarify those values and learn from people who may hold different values.
College is full of ups and downs, successes and failures, false starts and learning experiences. We tell students that this is a safe place to take well-calculated risks, and that the most significant growth and learning often comes from making mistakes. However, this can be especially hard for you to watch from afar and resist the urge to intervene when your student experiences frustration and hardship. Shifting to the role of coaching your student through the situation, rather than intervening for your student, will go a long way toward developing their ability to handle similar situations in the future.
We don’t expect you or any family member to support your student alone or to know the answers to all of their questions. This guide is structured to provide information directly applicable to your student’s college experience and many of the common situations students encounter. We hope you will find it helpful in better understanding these issues and identifying resources that can facilitate your student’s success.
Parent & Family Programs and the Division of Student Life at Miami are committed to supporting you throughout your student’s time on campus. We are with you every step of the way, now until graduation.
Love and Honor!
Mark W. Pontious, Ph.D.
Director, Office of Parent & Family Programs
Division of Student Life