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In the Blink of an EyeShari McStay
I peek into my twin boys’ bedroom to see if they are awake.
Seeing the two beds made instantly confirms that they are up. I pause a moment, noticing the glaring difference. One neatly made, one barely made.
I thank both boys for making their beds. I won’t say anything in front of them about how they are done or compare the way in which they are done. I appreciate that they made the effort and also believe that each one has done his best.
The boys are fraternal twins and they are so very different, yet so close. Different interests, different friends, and they attend different schools.
Each boy with his own unique personality, strengths and passions.
Children, like snowflakes, share a similar makeup and yet no two are exactly the same. Born to the same parents and sharing genes, yet exposed to different conditions and outside influences in places such as school, clubs, sports activities and visits to friends’ homes.
Though they have their differences, just as snowflakes have some similarities, so do my sons — each one kind, caring, bright and family-oriented. They learn differently: one dyslexic, one not, yet each with an incredible mind and zest for learning.
Just as snowflakes change at different times, children grow, mature and learn at different times. We should have no expectations that any two should be or will be the same.
Like a beautiful, individual snowflake glistening in a snowfall, I will love and accept each child for just how they are in each moment in time.
Big choices — and big changes — are on the horizon for your senior and your entire family.