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How to Respond When Things Get HardJennifer Sullivan
The 2020–21 school year has asked all of us, students and families alike, to take on new challenges and find peace and self-care amidst the chaos.
As we move into a new season (and it is new, even if we’re still dealing with many of the same challenges), we are stronger, more creative — and maybe more present and grateful for life’s little moments.
Here are six lessons we’ve learned and thoughts on how to continue to support your student’s growth.
In a typical year, student success is measured by grades on a report card or transcript. This year is anything but typical, and success for many students has looked (and will continue to look) very different.
Success for your student in 2020–21 may have looked like waking up every day and attending class on their computer in their bedroom. Success may have been your student finding a place in your house or apartment where they could listen to a professor’s lecture without the dog barking or a parent’s work conference call in the background.
Success might have meant that your student followed campus rules to quarantine for two weeks in their dorm room, only seeing friends on FaceTime. Success might have meant resisting pressure to attend a party because they knew the health risks.
Some days success (for both students and us, too!) meant just going to sleep and waking up the next day to try again.
Making it through this year together is reason enough to celebrate. Surviving college during the pandemic is proof that your student is resilient and capable — and they will bring these newly honed skills with them in whatever they attempt next.
The variety of instructional methods offered by colleges and universities over the past year (online, in person, hybrid) required students to use self-awareness and critical thinking skills as they figured out how they learn best and decided whether or not to enroll in courses that were offered remotely.
Some incoming freshmen chose to stay home for a semester or a year, knowing that when in-person learning resumes it will give them the best chance for success. Students further along in their journeys realized they could alter their trajectory (take time off, take fewer or different classes, maybe even transfer) without losing sight of the ultimate goal of college graduation.
The ability to self-advocate will serve them well going forward.
As face-to-face opportunities decreased, colleges developed innovative and efficient ways of nurturing connection. Campuses developed virtual town halls, used technology to stream concerts and performances, and harnessed the power of video to support student clubs and activities. Virtual office hours in some cases made it easier for students to connect with their professors.
The older generation got more tech savvy, too. Of course it wasn’t always optimal — I learned from personal experience it’s almost impossible to help a teenager clean and pack their dorm room for holiday break over text and FaceTime instead of being there in person. (Not being able to see the garbage under the bunk bed put me at a real disadvantage.)
This year has taught our students that they will face challenges in life and must learn to adapt and be flexible in order to achieve success. In her 2020 virtual graduation address at North Carolina State University, NC State alumna and NASA astronaut Christina Koch told graduates, “resilience is your trajectory.”
Disappointment and unpredictability were constants this school year and have tested students’ resolve. But all of us — students, friends and family members — have made it past the obstacles, and best of all, we’ve helped each other along the way.
According to national data, the number of college students with mental health concerns has risen in recent years. Students are under increasingly more pressure as they attempt to balance academics, social relationships, rising tuition costs, financial debt and family responsibilities.
Stress in college is not new; however this year more than ever students learned the importance of coping with stress in healthy and positive ways. Many colleges created innovative, campus-wide mental health support programs such as online meditation groups and virtual wellness coaching.
The pandemic forced parents and guardians to take a look at our own self-care strategies and model these for our kids. Going forward, campuses and families will continue to play a pivotal role in eliminating the stigma surrounding mental health.
The pathways for students after high school have always been varied: technical degree certificate programs, joining the workforce, volunteering, taking a gap year, enrolling in a 2-year or 4-year college, joining the military, etc.
There has never been just one way to “do college” and in 2020–21 more than ever, students chose next steps that were right for them based on their learning needs and goals, family financial situation, the health and age of family members and more.
Though our circumstances and choices are different, we have shared an experience like none other in our memories. So congratulations, students and families, as you prepare to finish this school year strong. You are ready to create new successes in 2021–22!
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